We are socialized to fear and even hate our bodies. In those rare instances in the media when there is a portrayal of a plus size woman as sensual being it is always met with ridicule and fat shaming. There are a number of things we know for sure: We are having meaningful and intimate experiences We are desired and feel desirable. We are worthy of having healthy relationships that honor and affirm our desires. We don't need to wait for a partner to acknowledge and validate our beauty. We should be free to discover our own sexuality without feeling shame for doing so.